Friday, October 07, 2005
Confidence self esteem...What gets you going?
Confidence self esteem
"It's tough to get ahead when you waste your time getting even." -Lou Holtz -
Hey Friend and Lifestyler,
Thanks for your time, you're much appreciated.
Sometimes you need to remind yourself that confidence (a sureness or trust of oneself) is a skill that you...or anyone can improve and benefit from!
Alright..."I ain't going no more" - Rocky -
In the context of your personal development, there are a lot of empowering ways to KICK-OFF your confidence and self-esteem that get immediate results, but I'm all for simplifying things even further...
A while ago, you asked for a recommendation describing how you can break free from the grips of the so called "guru syndrome."
What the heck is a "guru syndrome"?
Is it some sort of a fairy tale...
Well, glad you asked, you see several times a week I'll get phone calls and comments that say:
"blah, blah, blah...this guru is better than that guru, and then they'll go and on about stuff for one reason or another!
Have you responded enthusiastically and told me that:
"I suck so I'm not going to read what you've gotta say anymore?"
Why?
Is it because one guru is better or smarter than the other guru?
Look, "I feel confident, relaxed, and open to whatever the day may bring."
Just ask yourself...
Why would someone like you express interest, go to all the trouble of calling or sending for information, see what a terrific opportunity this is to learn, then stop?
Of course, I can understand those problems, and by the way, I enjoy writing this blog whether you choose to read it or not, I'm a very fortunate, well-to-do, secure individual...
So all of this scared, and anxious talk isn't a good investment of your time or energy and it's not going to get your confidence and self-esteem anywhere, but nevertheless it's interesting and highly amusing to me.
Humor your brain, okay?
Give it some happy food to chew on.
Allow your mind to mull things over subconsciously by choosing to make a positive behavior a trigger for a particular thought.
The trick is to be intentional about it...so we can get right to the important stuff (smile)
Today, like any other day (big grin)...like you, I obviously pay attention to what you others have to say, and truth be known, I tell it like it is.
For example:
Most of what you have to say, let me put it this way...it's all pretty good stuff and I want to encourage your feedback.
Just bear in mind, I want us to work together and I'm doing my best to give you hard earned life experiences from multiple inputs and I offer you different perspectives.
I get a thrill from helping people and your success stories mean a lot to me.
In fact, the truly successful person doesn't need to play the guru game...its a boring routine!
What every so called guru has gotta say is in the context of his or her own experiences and by the way, that can often change from day-to-day.
Please let me suggest something that just might shake your guru tree because I want you truly operate on as an individual.
Remember that your mind doesn't sort thoughts into neat piles marked "real" or "imagined."
Everything goes in and is processed in the same way.
You feed your brain what you want to believe and beacuse we all do a great job of spooning in the negative thoughts, why not dishout a few positive ones?
Prove to yourself that you're ready to look for one good thought to keep you ahead of the game.
You want that edge...in other words you listen and pay attention to what multiple people have to say, but you also realize that no one expert has all the answers.
If you buy into the one "guru" then you're basically shortchanging your progress and ability to adapt as a healthy and balanced individual.
Although you're under no obligation to do anything...
I trust you're reading my personal messages because you beleive I care.
In fact, I want to step up to the plate and improve your results in a big way, and that you're here for that reason, not just hanging around to "belong."
Choose your triggers and select a certain habit or activity that you engage in every single day.
You can go out blaming or complaining ("bitching and moaning") about others perspectives and that 's a surefire way to increase that sense of belonging, but it really doesn't give you anything of value...does it?
The truth is you want to be successful, so study all the gurus, and take what they've gotta say in the context of your own personality, desired outcomes, and most importantly, your own wisdom and experiences.
It's easy to get caught up in the negative thought cycles we've all developed during our lives.
Our brains already know the "I'm never going to get ahead financially" story and the "No matter what I do, I can't lose this weight" story.
Our minds are getting way too many repeats of the "other people fulfill their dreams, but not me" story.
This is not what gives you the continual confidence and self-esteem or what many gurus refer to as the "edge."
Only you can give yourself the edge, (authority, the power or right to give orders) that allows you to be the successful individual you want to be, instead of just belonging.
So I ask you: "what gets you going?"
And who gives you the authority to act...is it a guru or a reliable source?
If you don't like what you see or hear, you're smart, get the edge and keep one step ahead, why waste your time getting even?
Just turn the page...new story, and most of all, be happy, enjoy and have lots of fun!
More power to you.
Confidence self esteem ¶ 9:07 AM
"It's tough to get ahead when you waste your time getting even." -Lou Holtz -
Hey Friend and Lifestyler,
Thanks for your time, you're much appreciated.
Sometimes you need to remind yourself that confidence (a sureness or trust of oneself) is a skill that you...or anyone can improve and benefit from!
Alright..."I ain't going no more" - Rocky -
In the context of your personal development, there are a lot of empowering ways to KICK-OFF your confidence and self-esteem that get immediate results, but I'm all for simplifying things even further...
A while ago, you asked for a recommendation describing how you can break free from the grips of the so called "guru syndrome."
What the heck is a "guru syndrome"?
Is it some sort of a fairy tale...
Well, glad you asked, you see several times a week I'll get phone calls and comments that say:
"blah, blah, blah...this guru is better than that guru, and then they'll go and on about stuff for one reason or another!
Have you responded enthusiastically and told me that:
"I suck so I'm not going to read what you've gotta say anymore?"
Why?
Is it because one guru is better or smarter than the other guru?
Look, "I feel confident, relaxed, and open to whatever the day may bring."
Just ask yourself...
Why would someone like you express interest, go to all the trouble of calling or sending for information, see what a terrific opportunity this is to learn, then stop?
Of course, I can understand those problems, and by the way, I enjoy writing this blog whether you choose to read it or not, I'm a very fortunate, well-to-do, secure individual...
So all of this scared, and anxious talk isn't a good investment of your time or energy and it's not going to get your confidence and self-esteem anywhere, but nevertheless it's interesting and highly amusing to me.
Humor your brain, okay?
Give it some happy food to chew on.
Allow your mind to mull things over subconsciously by choosing to make a positive behavior a trigger for a particular thought.
The trick is to be intentional about it...so we can get right to the important stuff (smile)
Today, like any other day (big grin)...like you, I obviously pay attention to what you others have to say, and truth be known, I tell it like it is.
For example:
Most of what you have to say, let me put it this way...it's all pretty good stuff and I want to encourage your feedback.
Just bear in mind, I want us to work together and I'm doing my best to give you hard earned life experiences from multiple inputs and I offer you different perspectives.
I get a thrill from helping people and your success stories mean a lot to me.
In fact, the truly successful person doesn't need to play the guru game...its a boring routine!
What every so called guru has gotta say is in the context of his or her own experiences and by the way, that can often change from day-to-day.
Please let me suggest something that just might shake your guru tree because I want you truly operate on as an individual.
Remember that your mind doesn't sort thoughts into neat piles marked "real" or "imagined."
Everything goes in and is processed in the same way.
You feed your brain what you want to believe and beacuse we all do a great job of spooning in the negative thoughts, why not dishout a few positive ones?
Prove to yourself that you're ready to look for one good thought to keep you ahead of the game.
You want that edge...in other words you listen and pay attention to what multiple people have to say, but you also realize that no one expert has all the answers.
If you buy into the one "guru" then you're basically shortchanging your progress and ability to adapt as a healthy and balanced individual.
Although you're under no obligation to do anything...
I trust you're reading my personal messages because you beleive I care.
In fact, I want to step up to the plate and improve your results in a big way, and that you're here for that reason, not just hanging around to "belong."
Choose your triggers and select a certain habit or activity that you engage in every single day.
You can go out blaming or complaining ("bitching and moaning") about others perspectives and that 's a surefire way to increase that sense of belonging, but it really doesn't give you anything of value...does it?
The truth is you want to be successful, so study all the gurus, and take what they've gotta say in the context of your own personality, desired outcomes, and most importantly, your own wisdom and experiences.
It's easy to get caught up in the negative thought cycles we've all developed during our lives.
Our brains already know the "I'm never going to get ahead financially" story and the "No matter what I do, I can't lose this weight" story.
Our minds are getting way too many repeats of the "other people fulfill their dreams, but not me" story.
This is not what gives you the continual confidence and self-esteem or what many gurus refer to as the "edge."
Only you can give yourself the edge, (authority, the power or right to give orders) that allows you to be the successful individual you want to be, instead of just belonging.
So I ask you: "what gets you going?"
And who gives you the authority to act...is it a guru or a reliable source?
If you don't like what you see or hear, you're smart, get the edge and keep one step ahead, why waste your time getting even?
Just turn the page...new story, and most of all, be happy, enjoy and have lots of fun!
More power to you.
Confidence self esteem ¶ 9:07 AM
